We didn’t mean to heal our inner children but somehow we did?

There were no dramatic breakthroughs, no tearful journal entries, no healing retreats in the woods. It wasn’t even on purpose. But somehow, somewhere along the way, we started to heal.

We were just trying to live. Pay bills. Cook dinner. Show up for work. Raise kids, Keep friendships going. Maybe, on the good days, take a walk, breathe a little deeper, or sit in the sun for five minutes before the next thing called.

But in the midst of all that... something shifted. Quietly.

We didn’t realize we were healing our inner children those younger versions of ourselves who carried big feelings in little bodies. Who were sometimes too loud, too sensitive, too curious, or too scared for the world they were in. But we did.\

We Started Giving Ourselves What We Never Got

Maybe it was ordering the birthday cake we always wanted as a kid but never had. Or dancing in the kitchen to a song that used to make us feel seen. Or letting ourselves rest without guilt.

We stopped waiting for someone else to give us permission. We began saying yes to the tiny joys our younger selves would have loved like painting badly, playing video games, watching cartoons, or buying sparkly notebooks. We wore what we liked, not what was appropriate. We let our inner child out to play, and they were so, so ready.

We didn’t call it healing. It just felt like being kind. But it mattered.

We Became the Adults We Needed

Slowly, we stopped shaming ourselves for needing reassurance, rest, or affection. We stopped calling ourselves “too much” or “not enough.” We didn’t scold ourselves for being afraid or overwhelmed—we listened instead.

The way we talk to ourselves changed. It got gentler. When we made mistakes, we didn’t spiral as much. We gave ourselves a hug—in our minds, or sometimes literally. We offered the understanding we once longed for.

Somewhere inside, our younger selves were watching. And they started to trust us.

We Chose Peace Over Performance

We used to believe we had to earn love. Be perfect to be worthy. Accomplish to be seen. But then we got tired really tired. And when we couldn’t keep performing, we started questioning why we were trying so hard in the first place.

Bit by bit, we chose peace instead of people-pleasing. We let go of some of the pressure. We stopped proving and started just... being. That’s when the healing came.

When we stopped running, we heard our inner child whisper: “Thank you.”

We Found Safe People 

Healing doesn’t happen in isolation, but it also doesn’t need a stadium of cheerleaders. One kind friend can change everything. One safe conversation. One person who says, You’re not too much. I’m here.

We found those people maybe online, maybe in a coffee shop, maybe in the mirror. Sometimes we had to be our own safe space first, and that was hard. But we kept showing up.

And the lonely little kids inside us finally felt seen.

We Let Ourselves Cry

Not always big sobs. Sometimes just a quiet tear while watching a movie. Or when someone said, “I’m proud of you,” and we realized no one ever had.

We cried over things we didn’t know we were carrying. We let those feelings come up without pushing them down. And we didn’t apologize for them. That alone was healing.

Our inner child had been waiting years for us to let those tears fall.

We Reclaimed Our Joy

Joy didn’t always come in big moments. Sometimes it was finger-painting with our kids. Eating cereal for dinner. Reading bedtime stories out loud. Singing badly in the car.

Those silly, small joys were sacred. They were the things our younger selves had always loved, and now we were giving them space again.

We started smiling more. Laughing at our own jokes. Dancing, even if we looked ridiculous. We remembered joy is our birthright, not a reward we have to earn.

We Broke the Cycle Gently

Maybe we stopped yelling. Maybe we apologized to someone we hurt. Maybe we said “I love you” first. Or went to therapy, or set a boundary, or left a toxic situation.

We didn’t just survive. We chose different.

And in doing that, we gave our inner child something powerful: proof that things can change.

Healing Sneaked Up on Us

We weren’t trying to heal, not exactly. We were just trying to be okay.

But every time we gave ourselves a little grace, every time we chose softness over shame, every time we listened instead of judged we were patching up something old.

We didn’t know it then, but our inner children noticed.

They exhaled. They finally felt safe. So if You’re Reading This…

Maybe you’re in the middle of it. Maybe you’re exhausted, unsure, and wondering if you’re doing anything “right.”

But if you’ve ever comforted yourself when no one else did, or stood up for yourself, or followed a little spark of joy then yes, you’re healing.

You may not even notice it happening. But your inner child does. And they are so, so proud of you

June 18, 2025 Tags : inner child

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